Shidduch questions, answered by those who know
Questions people really ask about shidduchim, dating, inquiries, engagement, the wedding and married life — with the answers of well-known rabbanim, rebbetzins and shadchanim. Every answer carries the name of the person who gave it; where they disagree, you see all the views.
This English section is new and growing. The full library of several thousand questions is available in Russian.
Readiness for shidduchim
Choosing a spouse
Working with a shadchan
Inquiries (checking references)
The first date
Later dates
Doubts and saying no
Engagement
The wedding
Money
Parents
Married life and shalom bayis
Intimacy and family purity
Children and relatives
Halacha
Special situations
Emunah while waiting
Answered by people, not a program
Nobody makes up an answer on the spot here. Behind every answer is the experience of well-known rabbanim, rebbetzins and shadchanim — their own words from their books and responses. The name stands next to each answer, and where views differ, all of them are shown.
