Where is it best to meet? Does the venue itself matter?different views
The authors differ in how they judge hotel lounges, while all discuss the convenience of the place and whether it allows a quiet conversation.
He criticises the habit of meeting in Manhattan hotel lobbies and believes many follow it against their own sense of dignity. In support he cites a European rebbetzin: in truth, her daughter is not going to be taken to such places; that is not the way of aristocracy.
“In truth, my daughter is not going to be taken to such places. That is not the way of aristocracy.”
She advises taking into account each person's preference, the convenience of getting there, the atmosphere, and whether you can hear each other talk. Meeting at home works when both want it; one should not insist against the other's wishes.
“make sure the place is comfortable for both of you”
As examples she gives a walk along the waterfront or in a park, a hotel lounge, and a self-guided city tour. The common criterion in her advice is new topics of conversation supplied by the surroundings.
“think of somewhere where the scenery keeps changing”
