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Guides: what rabbis and shadchanim say
Every line comes from one answer by one person — a rav, shadchan, psychologist or author, shown with their role; book and page on request.
Date questions
- What do you talk about on a first shidduch date? Questions for dates 1–224 pointsask your ravdifferent views
- What to discuss from the third date on: home, money, Torah, parents, children25 pointsask your rav
- How can you see someone's real character on shidduch dates? Anger, stress, mistakes, maturity24 pointsask your rav
Saying no & red flags
Halacha on dates
- Yichud and negiah on shidduch dates: where may we meet — restaurant, park, hotel lobby, car?23 pointsask your ravdifferent views
- What may I ask about a shidduch, and what may I tell? Inquiries and lashon hara25 pointsask your ravdifferent views
- What must I disclose in a shidduch, and when? Health, therapy, past, baal teshuva, ger25 pointsask your ravdifferent views
Résumé & inquiries
Feelings & doubts
- Great person, but no spark — can attraction grow in a shidduch?25 pointsask your ravdifferent views
- Shidduch burnout: is it OK to take a break — and how do I not give up after dozens of dates?25 pointsdifferent views
- I was rejected after a shidduch date — is something wrong with me? Self-esteem, anxiety, therapy25 pointsdifferent views
Answered by people, not a program
Nobody makes up an answer on the spot here. Behind every answer is the experience of well-known rabbanim, rebbetzins and shadchanim — their own words from their books and responses. The name stands next to each answer, and where views differ, all of them are shown.